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07/25/2016 at 13:44 • Filed to: None
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"MPA" (MPA)
07/25/2016 at 13:44 • Filed to: None | 0
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This is some high schoo level BS really, but all involved are adults :)
So my mother-in-law bought tickets for my wife to go to a concert, and told her to invite whomever she wants to tag along - they would have to buy their own tickets of course. She asks her friend - we’ll call her Sarah - who says no, she doesn’t want to go.
It turns out my MIL couldn’t make the concert due to a trip they had planned, so my wife asked another friend to go.
On the day of the concert, Sarah is pissed off that my wife didn’t ask her to go once her mom backed out. Sarah said she originally said no because she didn’t want to impose, but never mentioned it to my wife that was the reason she said no.
My thoughts are that Sarah should’ve said why she didn’t want to go at first - which was ridiculous because she knows her mom, and it was in no way imposing.. But Sarah thinks that my wife should’ve asked her to go to the concert first once her mom backed out.
Just looking for opinions. My wife is upset - her friend Sarah is making her feel horrible about not taking her because “She really wanted to go”. I can’t post this on FB without asking for major drama, so I figure I could ask the random internets of Oppo :)
SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:48 |
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What makes Sarah think she’s entitled to it? She already said no.
$kaycog
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:51 |
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Sarah blew it.
My citroen won't start
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:51 |
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Sarah can fall in a tar pit for all I care, that’s not how adults behave. If you wanted to go to a concert and someone didn’t invite you, the only reasonable reaction is drinking to forget that ever happened or not giving a fuck entirely because once again, you are an adult.
Xyl0c41n3
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:52 |
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Sarah sounds like a jerk. Tell your wife to stop feeling guilty. She’s not a mind reader and Sarah is an adult who is perfectly capable of expressing her desires, but chose not to. And now she’s throwing a tantrum about it? No sir. Not ok.
What if your wife had invited mutual friend Betty instead after mom backed out? Sarah would have been pissed then, too, I’m guessing. Sarah is absolutely not entitled to gifts from your wife’s mother. She’s being a shitty friend by thinking she is and making your wife feel bad, to boot.
Azrek
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:52 |
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Man, some people just suck at adulting...A mantra of mine to folks who refuse to communicate is, “If I could read minds and my penis could vibrate, I’d rule the world.”
No meant no...it wasn’t No with an * clause. Sorry you didn’t communicate well? Send Sarah lots of photos.
(Self reporting: Yeah, I have a short temper with stuff like this. I am usually the “planner” for my friends for events and if someone waffles they are left behind. The next time there is 100% less waffling)
CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:56 |
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Sarah’s a bit manipulative. Just saying.
PotbellyJoe and 42 others
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 13:58 |
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Sounds like if this strains the friendship between your wife and Sarah, your wife will ultimately be better off for it. Unwarranted drama is ridiculous.
My wife had a few high drama friends (read HS girlfriends) and one of them legitimately got pissed off at my wife for marrying me, not because of who I was, but because my wife (who had a brief and awful marriage immediately after high school) was getting a second chance at marriage when she hadn’t found anyone. Somehow this was my wife’s fault and the grudge was so bad they no longer speak after being friends for over 25 years.
Moral of the story, women can be crazy and everyone could use a little less crazy in their lives at times.
The Dummy Gummy
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 14:06 |
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Sarah sounds stupid. Definitely not anyone’s fault but Sarah’s.
My wife is upset - her friend Sarah is making her feel horrible about not taking her because “She really wanted to go”.
She also sounds like a terrible friend.
Svend
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 14:09 |
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Sarah should of said that she didn’t want to impose but because Sarah would of had to buy her own ticket I think that also played a big part (if not the actual reason).
What Sarah should of said is, ‘I’d love to go but I don’t want to impose and I can’t really afford it right now’, then that would of been a cue for your wife should your MIL not make it.
It’s also a grey area when close friends are concerned because when the MIL dropped out she maybe could (not saying should here) of asked Sarah again. Sort of ‘hey, I know you said no but my mother can’t make it and now I’ve got a spare ticket’, but as Sarah said no with no reason attached she forfits being asked again in my books.
But at the end of the day the tickets are your wife’s and it’s entirely up to her what she does with them.
It’s also the height of bad manners to insist you should of been asked again and fall out over it.
It’ll all blow over but not till a little while after the concert.
Galileo Humpkins (aka MC Clap Yo Handz)
> SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie
07/25/2016 at 14:22 |
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Cherry_man1
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 14:42 |
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She said no, when people say that to me I don;t ask them a second time. That simple. You missed out. Get over it.
FKA-RacecaR
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 14:54 |
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Tell Sarah to fuck off and next time speak what is actually on her mind instead of trying to be coy and “polite”.
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MPA
> Azrek
07/25/2016 at 15:13 |
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That’s what I told my wife - “She’s asking you to read her mind, and is pissed because you didn’t”
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MPA
> Svend
07/25/2016 at 15:15 |
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Sarah incorrectly assumed the invite from my wife and MIL included a free ticket. I’m with you - Sarah said no with no caveat about the imposing, so she shouldn’t have been re-asked.
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MPA
> PotbellyJoe and 42 others
07/25/2016 at 15:16 |
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This is likely the end of their ~2 year friendship. I feel bad, my wife is really sweet, but she deserves better friends than Sarah.
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> Galileo Humpkins (aka MC Clap Yo Handz)
07/25/2016 at 15:17 |
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Thanks everyone! I know my wife is right, but maybe seeing how others feel will make it easier on her
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PotbellyJoe and 42 others
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 15:21 |
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my wife is really sweet, [and] she deserves better friends than Sarah.
FTFY
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Svend
> MPA
07/25/2016 at 15:41 |
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Hell, imagine what would of happened if Sarah had said yes and then been told, 'okay, the tickets are $70. Do you want the number to call or give me the money now and I'll tell my mother to phone for another ticket?'. That would of been an epic one. Lol.